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I'm a 30 year old female virgin. Never even kissed...

2009-11-10T07:46:20.579-06:00

I'm a 30 year old female virgin. Never even kissed a guy. Guys have been interested in me, I've definitely had opportunities to start relationships but I just haven't. I'm not bad-looking or a weirdo, I have friends and I go out. But since the age of 20, I stopped falling in love and haven't found anyone remotely interesting enough to want to get to know as a love interest. I think the pickings get very slim after 25 if you want a man with an unspoiled mind. Another thing is, since 20, I have become born again, and nobody really measures up to the love I've found in Jesus. If there's anyone else in the same position, do you think it's better to just stay celibate for life under these circumstances? I can't see myself being happy in a twosome after years of settling into my own ways and definitely after 30, a woman's body goes downhill in terms of looks!

I waited for different reasons over the years from...

2009-11-04T14:38:33.593-06:00

I waited for different reasons over the years from religion to terror of the consequences to pride. Sometimes on dates with men I was attracted to I would wonder, "what in the world am I waiting for?" I have to say it was usually my pride that stopped me. I liked seeing myself as the girl who didn't put out and I liked how guys wanted me because of that decision. It wasn't until I met my husband that I was so thankful I had waited. I cannot express how special it is to share sex with him and only him. Not to mention the way he loves me and the way he respects my body because I saved it for him.

As hypocritical as it might sound though I'm also extremely thankful that he slept with other women before me. I know this sounds odd, but I appreciate his knowledge, his experience. Instead of obsessing over if his old flames were better than me, I'm flattered that he chose to sleep with me forever. Maybe what I mean to say is that you should appreciate what your partner does have to offer. The person you marry will have done things in the past you don't like, but those experiences have shaped them into the person you love.

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2009-09-26T20:58:00.328-05:00

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after much analysis, i definately choose a virgin ...

2009-05-25T09:06:47.663-05:00

after much analysis, i definately choose a virgin girl for marriage. 2nd hand car is less value, have history of ownership, accidents,summons, and will give more problems during the journey. if it was stolen car, u need to face even more troubles.better to buy a trustworthy new car an own it and love it until last. Thus we avoid credit crunch, reliability problem and extra burdens. It is more divine friendly, environmental friendly, judicial friendly and offer total love. of course the driver need to learn how to drive, more years more experience and skill for the driver.shh dont tell my girlfriend i was here.

I'm 24 and I'm a virgin. I also have never had a b...

2009-05-13T05:21:21.524-05:00

I'm 24 and I'm a virgin. I also have never had a boyfriend. The closest I ever came to having sex was with a guy that pursused me intently because he knew about me. I trusted him because he was good friends with my brother-n-law. He was the first and really only guy I ever kissed.He tried too hard and too fast to get me into bed so things ended pretty abruptly.

I have been having a hard time latley about being a virgin. The Majority of my friends since high school have been the opposite of virgins. They enjoy and boast about sex. They act like they can't do without it. I've been feeling lately like life is short so what am I waiting for? There is this whole part to life I'm missing out on. I'm not waiting for religious reasons although I think that's what I thought when I was younger. It's been more about waiting for the right time and a guy I feel comfortable with. Part of why my life has been this way is because I was sexually abused as a child and it made me skiddish about being touched by men. I'm better about it now but I still get soo nervous when I'm with a guy on a date or trying to get to know him. I feel like I get overlooked for my friends that prob put out more of a signal. People say I look like a "good girl". I feel like guys can tell they wouldn't get sex easily from me. Idk...lately I've just felt like so many things should've happened to me by now.

I waited. My wife is the only person I've ever ha...

2009-04-07T09:40:28.419-05:00

I waited. My wife is the only person I've ever had sex with, and I got married at age 27.

My wife has accused me of cheating multiple times. I tell her, "I've been faithful to you for 30 years." It doesn't matter.

Maybe if I had married someone different, my virginity would have had value. As it is, the only thing I feel about it is regret. There were some girls I could have had a really good time with, and maybe if I had done that, I wouldn't have made such a bad decision on choosing my wife.

Now, we're almost definitely getting divorced this year. Our son (hers from a previous marriage) is 14. I started by telling him to wait, but I've changed my mind. First, it's not realistic. He has to want it, and he doesn't. I can't give that desire to him. Second, of all the people I know personally, the only person I know that waited and it worked for is my sister. Everyone else that waited, it's had no value, or that didn't, has been happier for it.

I'm not saying that if you can wait and find a nice girl who waited and have a good marriage, it's not worth it... but for most people, it's simply not only not realistic, but it's not worth it.

I personally think that sex is a personal choice. ...

2009-04-06T17:50:22.050-05:00

I personally think that sex is a personal choice. Now I'm not saying to go out and do it with whomever you please, but it's a choice you can make. Being a virgin until marriage was a concept originally used to raise the price of a dowry, the price that a man paid his bride's father. If the girl had sex before then, she was thought to be less of a person, which i find sickening. Now I applaud you if you feel that your virginity is something that you cherish and are proud to have, but it makes me sad when people describe sex without marriage as "sinful and dirty" but sex within marriage as "holy and right". Sex is sex, and whether you have a piece of paper saying you are married or not, it is the same thing.

My only qualm with the general outlook on waiting ...

2009-03-23T02:54:31.828-05:00

My only qualm with the general outlook on waiting for marriage is that the emphasis seems to be placed on girls. I commend the men here who are proud to claim their virginity. And I believe those men should advocate louder to boys and young adults. It seems boys are told to respect a girl's decision to wait. To me, that implicitly states that his virginity is not the main value. His only responsibility is to say "no" in order to preserve the girl's purity, not his own.

Celebration of virginity is a two-way street. We rarely hear girls being told, "remember to respect your boyfriend's body." Instead it is more common to hear, "remember to cherish your body." Therefore, once again I applaud men who are proud of their decision to wait. And I hope that emphasis of respecting yourself for your future partner is passed on to their future sons.

>> Anonymous. Condoms would protect you against ST...

2009-03-05T08:39:09.945-06:00

>> Anonymous. Condoms would protect you against STDs just fine.
I think that total lack of experience with a woman at age of 32 would make someone socially and sexually inadequate. Great sex with your wife is something that has to be achieved and its possible that unrealistic expectations coupled with sexual frustration will make your first sexual experience less then satisfying for your bride. What was the age of marriage in Bible times? 12 - 14 after their Bar/Bat Mitzwah ceremony. Aren't all things given by God? Including war, genocyde : "When the Lord your God brings you into the land you are entering to possess and drives out before you may nations...then you must destroy them totally. Make no treaty with them and show them no mercy." Deuteronomy 7:1-2, NIV. All according to God's grand plan.

I am a 32 year old christain man. I am a single m...

2009-02-14T21:57:43.826-06:00

I am a 32 year old christain man. I am a single man, and YES I am a virgin. I have been told it's worth waiting for, and I believe that is true. I will wait for that special someone. I Will wait for marriage. Even If I end up being the 40 year old virgin. I believe Sex is a wonderful thing (given By God) that should only be done in the confines of marriage. From a practical point of view, one of the plus's for waiting is that you don't have to worry about any STDS.That alone is worth it.

TO any of the young Christain Guys out their that might read this and are struggling with this, I DO UNDERSTAND. BE Strong and Don't give in, GOD has someone for YOU, And when YOU find that person, You will know it WAS WORTH THE WAIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous above, I find it quite unsettling that y...

2009-01-30T19:28:19.724-06:00

Anonymous above, I find it quite unsettling that your boyfriend told you who his "best sex" was with, though he knows your stance on purity. I would certainly question his motivation in telling you this, because it sounds to me like it's the precursor to convincing you into competing with Miss X.

I don't know how old you are, but to be having conversations at this level, I would assume that you are marriage-minded. Please prayerfully consider that a person like this would not make the best mate, especially for someone who values virginity.

I cannot state this strongly enough. I am not trying to judge him, necessarily, because I know that men are hard-wired quite differently, but it is, as I said, very unsettling that he would talk to you this way. With my knowledge of men and their (sometimes not-so-pure) motivations, it truly sounds like he's about to talk you into "being even better." Don't succumb.

My husband and I lost our virginity to each other....

2009-01-26T18:08:33.922-06:00

My husband and I lost our virginity to each other. We weren't married when we did, but we have each only been with the other. I was even his first kiss, but he wasn't mine which I regret.

I find that I agree more and more with the more conservative views on sex, even though I didn't when I was younger. Before I was married and able to say that my husband is the only man I've ever been with, I didn't place much value on it. Only after has it become something I am so proud of. and I really wish that he had been my first kiss as well so we could share that special bond. Before I was with him I didn't think I had a problem with guys looking at porn, but after I realized he did it and it was a bit of a problem for him, it really bothered me, still does. i feel like it takes away from the intimacy we share now, that he has "dirtied" i guess, that part of our relationship.

I hope that we are able to raise our daughter in a way that she respects her body and chooses to save herself for marriage.

I'm a virgin and proud of it. 22 year old guy. The...

2009-01-25T10:26:14.727-06:00

I'm a virgin and proud of it. 22 year old guy. There are numerous reasons, but one had def have to do with my traditional Indian upbringing.

My parents never made me feel I had to live like an "Indian" despite being born and raised in America. It was just how I felt. I'm more "Indian" than most of my friends in that I value tradition and culture. But other aspect is definetely the way I view women. I really haven't been in a "relationship" before. Although what most people call dating I call "getting to know."

If I like a girl, I try to be her friend fiRST. If I can connect with her as a friend, then I can perhaps take it to the next level. Over the years I've become in tune with the type of girl I wish to marry, and being celibate is definetly one of those requirements. But overall, if a girl is decent, maybe has had two or three lovers in the past, but not like 10 or 20, or started dating when she was 13 or younger, then she's a good girl and someone I can trust.

Just my thoughts.

Anonymous - I can see why that can bother you, it would bother me as well. But I guess if you trully love someone you need to look past the past and look towards the future.

My boyfriend didn't wait, and I am waiiting. Let m...

2009-01-25T05:46:21.834-06:00

My boyfriend didn't wait, and I am waiiting. Let me make it clear that I'm not questioning my decision...I don't like his. I REALLY don't like his. I cant get it out of my head that he's done this before, he's been in love. . .and he's even told me who he had his best sex with. I mean, c'mon. I don't need to worry about what visions go through his mind about me. I dunno I wish he would have waited. My question is...if he and I get married: how big a deal is this gonna be?