Comments on iamhusband.com: Choose Her

Though I understand the effect it might have in th...

2008-07-03T01:48:00.000+03:00

Though I understand the effect it might have in the short term, when do you bring this sort of thing up to a person? I still believe that if you don't address things that are irking you, resentment will build up to ridiculous levels. I don't want that to happen as much as I don't want her to cry or get angry. At that point, you're stuck with a conundrum. If someone is a bit careless, how and when do you address it?

Honestly and with candor, but without any malice or patronizing, I figure.

Easier said than done, methinks.

I know you're making a point, and I like the attem...

2008-06-15T06:53:00.000+03:00

I know you're making a point, and I like the attempt, but those examples are examples of a person being a total jerk. Anyone with that kind of an attitude is going to fail in a relationship of any sort in life. They are proving that they are the only one's that matter.

I do think that is part of your point, and part extrapolation from the utter revulsion I felt against the antagonist in the examples.

To put things in perspective, I hold absolutely no house duties as my wife's alone. She just ends up doing the majority of them because I am usually busy trying to earn a living for our family; often working until midnight most nights. That money in turn is set completely free for her discretion and I hold nothing back. If she wants to spend the extra to go over our minutes I'm sure she had a good reason to.

I guess I was revolted enough to comment because I am already the person that let's everything slide; choosing her over that other stuff.

Very insightful. Thank you for sharing :) Going to...

2008-06-15T02:24:00.000+03:00

Very insightful. Thank you for sharing :) Going to pass this site along to many friends :)

"it's a two-way street" -- but that doesn't give u...

2008-06-13T22:51:00.000+03:00

"it's a two-way street" -- but that doesn't give us license to be unloving just because we're feeling unloved. We can only control our own tongue. This is a great post - potent words that I wish I'd heard about a week ago, before I put my stupid foot in my big mouth. I'm still learning.

That's a great point. But how do you make your wi...

2008-06-13T05:54:00.000+03:00

That's a great point. But how do you make your wife realize that she's doing the same thing? There are tons of situations where men keep quiet on the side of caution; situations where, if they were in that situation, their wives would make demeaning and sometimes hurtful comments.... It's a two-way street.

Wow. Harsh words that need to be said. I think I...

2008-06-13T01:12:00.000+03:00

Wow. Harsh words that need to be said. I think I'm generally pretty good about this (having grown older/wiser or at least older). I also see this applying to my life as a dad, too. What do my kids think I value? Stuff or them? Thanks for the point to ponder.