Comments on iamhusband.com: I Am A Waffle

I love the waffles v. spaghetti model. It is cert...

2009-01-31T03:29:00.000+02:00

I love the waffles v. spaghetti model. It is certainly true in my marriage!

Hi husband! Oh no worries - Obviously I'm a fan a...

2009-01-28T03:32:00.000+02:00

Hi husband! Oh no worries - Obviously I'm a fan and agree with pretty much everything you post or I wouldn't be reading these :) My comment wasn't necessarily directed toward you as it was a commentary on the whole personality profile-ish industry. And it's not to say that I don't "smell what they're steppin' in" as my Southern cousin would say - there's a lot of "Ah HA!" moments to be had in reading those books. I just think many people DO stop with the explanation and forget that they could improve on their situations by being a little more proactive.

Kelly, I appreciate your comment, and I wan...

2009-01-28T02:10:00.000+02:00

Kelly, I appreciate your comment, and I want to point out that I totally agree with you. Read carefully through what I wrote here (and through all of my articles, actually) and you will find that I am very much pro-changing. Like I wrote here, "It is very important that both the men and women realize that this isn't an excuse, it's simply an explanation." In understanding how we are and how are spouses are naturally, we can be aware of how to be better.

Peter, I actually saw that video series years after I read the book. It's very much the same concept with different examples. His video series covers all different areas of marriage however, while this book relates specifically to this concept. His name is Mark Gungor, and if you search for him on YouTube you'll find several funny clips.

Was it you who posted a link to a video a while ba...

2009-01-28T00:36:00.000+02:00

Was it you who posted a link to a video a while back about a comedian guy explaining the difference between men and women by saying that men put everything in boxes and women... well they're a different story?

If not, I wish I could remember what they guy's name is because what he was saying really fits with what you just wrote.

Great post btw!

This is an interesting concept, but I would challe...

2009-01-27T19:02:00.000+02:00

This is an interesting concept, but I would challenge husbands AND wives to stop acting according to what they "are" (as told by whom, exactly? Someone you don't even know?) and start taking more responsibility to "be." We can all BE more thoughtful, BE more proactive, BE more intuitive, etc.

My partner (actually, now my fiancee!) and I have often joked that I am The Secretary of our Company. I keep track of birthdates, social engagements, who's sick, who's pregnant, who just got a promotion, and I act accordingly. I don't know if I do this because I'm a woman and it's sort of expected, or if it's because in my professional life I actually AM an administrative assistant and it just carries over into my personal life. The thing is, it was really starting to get on my nerves that it wasn't more of a team effort, especially when it was HIS friends and family I was buying cards for, etc. We've now accepted that I am likely to always BE the secretary, but he can choose to BE more of a participant in the process, and he has been. I'll buy the cards, he'll sign them and drop them in the mail, etc.

I understand there are some basic character traits that may be more applicable to men vs women or vice versa, but I'd much rather take responsibility than let a character trait determine these things for me.

I forwarded this to my wife. Her response: "so so...

2009-01-27T18:53:00.000+02:00

I forwarded this to my wife. Her response: "so so so true!" I am curious to learn how women are like spaghetti.

I LOVE this book too!! Bill Farrel was my pastor ...

2009-01-27T18:14:00.000+02:00

I LOVE this book too!! Bill Farrel was my pastor growing up, and he and Pam are truly an amazing couple!!