Last week I got an email from a woman who shared that she and her husband had just organized their own marriage retreat. It wasn’t anything fancy, but it was just what their relationship needed, and now they both are feeling rejuvenated and more deeply in love. What was it they did exactly?
Nothing. But with a purpose.
The two set aside three full days to do absolutely nothing but spend time together. It wasn’t just time off, however. They spent this time reading together, talking about things together, praying together (they are a Christian couple), and they did things like watch movies and sleep in as late as they could.
I think this is a fantastic idea, and one many marriages could benefit from. Again, this wasn’t just “three days off.” This was a time to reconnect as a couple. That means, hours online or in front of the TV alone are off limits. This is about you as a couple, not you as an individual.
Though these two are empty-nesters, it doesn’t mean that doing something like this must wait until the kids are off at college. Steal a three-day weekend by sending the kids to friends’ houses, or to your parents’. Put together a loose schedule of things you want to accomplish. Choose a couples’ book that has discussion questions after each chapter to encourage important conversations. Find a list of movies you’ve wanted to see but had to miss over the last few years (maybe even go to the movies). Figure out how meals will work (include a special restaurant if you can afford it). Spend time reconnecting to each other sexually if that area of your life has been floundering.
Sometimes we avoid doing things for ourselves because of how hard it is to actually go through with the plan. But somethings are worth the trouble, especially when you think about long-term effects. If you marriage is in need of a little rest and relaxation, do what you’ve got to do to make it happen.