Doing things you don’t have to do are always a big win in a relationship. You wife knows you don’t like going to the grocery store with her on Saturday mornings because it’s your only time to really rest. She’s okay with that, she understands, but she does love to do things with you like you both used to. So, what better way to break that routine of not going and do the thing you don’t have to do for the sake of showing your wife how much you care?
Consider some of these other examples:
- Your wife hates to go clothes shopping by herself and has a few years’ worth of birthday money piling up. Since she knows you don’t like it too much either, suggest going with her one evening.
- Your wife understands that you need to get back upstairs and start working on that report right after dinner, but show her that you really appreciate all the work she put into the meal by insisting on doing the dishes. Don’t take no for an answer.
- You’re not expected to get the kids to their different activities since your wife always takes care of that. Offer to make the rounds and drop her off at a coffee shop for some reading time. Meet her back there for some good alone time together.
- You enjoy going on date nights with your wife, but the planning always seems to fall on her. Surprise her this week with a very well-planned date night to show her that you don’t need her initiation to actually spend time together.
Doing something you don’t have to do always shows those around you that you’re really going the extra mile. Since it’s not expected of you to take that extra step, your wife will be surprised and appreciate your thoughtfulness. Showing her you still think about ways to help her out like you did in the beginning of your relationship will go a long way.
Can you think of any other good examples we husbands could reach out and do what we don’t have to do?