January 20, 2010

Facebook and Your Marriage

Family blogger Trey Morgan, of treymorgan.net posted 10 Facebook Rules for Married Couples a couple of days ago. It's a very interesting list, and I would definitely second everything he had to say. It's definitely worth checking out.

So how well to you behave on Facebook as a husband? Respectable? Honorable? Are you flirting with disaster or do you use it to flirt with your wife (which is a great way to show public affection). Do you vent to those who don't need to know about your dirty laundry? One of my friends on Facebook is a distant relative who constantly berates her husband for being lazy, not being around, or just not being helpful. True? Maybe. But does it need to be out there for all to see? Definitely not. Talk to your spouse—not to the rest of the world—about your issues.

So which of Trey's top ten stood out to you as most important? I think mine is Number 8: Don't be afraid to proclaim your love for your spouse on Facebook. I love doing that!

10 comments:

  1. I love this! I think the only rules I've broken are the one about being on FB too often - and I'm working on that - and the one about befriending exes. I have three exes that I am very good friends with, and my husband has become friends with them as well through me. The reason I am friends with them is because they all respect boundaries. Two are married, one is engaged, and I am friends with their significant others. None of them is flirtatious with me, and I consider them more family than anything. My husband is not on FB, but knows my password (in fact I linked his Droid to my FB account so he can read it whenever he wants, though he doesn't). And I looooove posting great things about him on FB!!

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  2. I stay off of facebook altogether. It just seems like a good way for annoying people from my past jobs and schools to get ahold of me.

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  3. I absolutely agree with all of this, especially no secrets. One of my wife's High School boyfriends found her on FB and she didn't tell me about it for a couple months and then only when I confronted her. She said it made her feel good that he remembered and found her and she didn't think it was a big deal, but she kept it from me because she was afraid it would upset me. As far as I can tell the conversations were innocent (on her part), but he was definitely flirting with her. It has been extremely hard on our marriage, I never seriously questioned her loyalty/faithfulness before. But now I'm second guessing so many small things. Secrets are trust destroyers and a marriage without trust is really hard to be in.

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  4. I disagree with part of this. Trust is trusting your partner so there's no obligation to share passwords. Besides, what's stopping you from opening a secret online web email address to carry on any indescretions? All good in theory, but easy to get around.

    Anyway, I stubled on this blog and I don't like your religious agenda. Won't be back.

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  5. This was great! Facebook should definitely have some guidelines for married couples...it can either put a strain on the relationship or make it stronger depending on how you use it. I agree that Facebook should not be used to publicly air your dirty laundry or share your opinions about a partner's negative characteristics. I am so sick about reading people's inappropriate comments.

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  6. i am afraid that my jealousy can push her away

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  7. I'm honored that you'd include on of my links on your blog. I appreciate "I Am Husband" and the ministry you have going on here.

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  9. I agree with Andrea

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  10. My husband and I both have a FB account to which we both possess each other passwords. He was originally concerned about exes looking me up on FB but in actuallity it was his ex that found him and attempted to befriend him on FB. He let me know up front and ignored her friendship request. We really dont get on there that often anymore except to view invites from friends and family but overall I think that FB has not had any impact on my marriage because we know and honor the limitations which is all that matters.

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