Tell Her What You're Thinking

Sometimes I am just amazed that my wife picked me. Do you know what I mean? Sometimes I watch her do the cute things she does and I can't feel more in love with her. I know I married way out of my league and I couldn't be more thankful that she actually wants to be with me.

There are times when I'm watching her from across the room and think, Man, she is so beautiful. She was a bridesmaid in a wedding recently and I thought, Wow, she's really giving the bride a run for her money! In so many moments I remember who I am and who she is and I feel like the luckiest man in the world.

And today I want to share a little trick I've learned to make your wife feel like the woman you know she is:

Tell her what you're thinking.

Seriously, the next time you catch yourself thanking your lucky stars for the woman sitting next to you, tell her that the next chance you get. Or if you're admiring her across the room at some event, take the first moment you can to tell her how beautiful she is and how much you enjoyed watching her from across the room.

Our wives want to hear that we're still infatuated with them. We have these thoughts, so why not share them? Put your feelings into words and tell her. She'll love you more for it.

Learn To Love The Same Things

My wife is a game person. She loves all sorts of games and absolutely loves it whenever she gets to play them. Unfortunately, I'm not much of a game person at all. It's not that I don't like to play games, it's just that I'd rather be doing other things. Typically, I would much rather sit around with a group of people and talk about nothing than play a game. I wouldn't go as far to say that this has been a point of "tension" in our marriage, but it is something my wife always wishes I would want to do more.

Recently we've been hanging out with a couple who really enjoys playing games, so naturally we've been playing games more often. Since we've been on this game-kick for several weeks now, I've noticed something strange: I'm actually enjoying playing these games more and more. I've even found that I want to play more games.

Though husbands and wives will never have the exact same interests, it may surprise you how her interests can become your interests if you give yourself to learning about them and participating in them. I've seen this true in wives over and over, but husbands seem to have trouble wanting to make the effort. It's not that we can't because you were very interested in her hobbies when you were dating. Unfortunately we tend to get lazier and selfish as the married years march on. Don't let that happen!

What are some interests your wife has that she would love for you to be more involved in?

I Need Your Help

As I mentioned earlier this year, I have some ideas for this site that I hope to see come to pass sooner rather than later. Back in the very first post I ever wrote for iAMHUSBAND, I said, "...I'm hoping that there are others out there who have great ideas or advice to share with the rest of us. I hope this can be somewhat of a sounding board of positivity and encouragement as we all seek advice and ideas to keep our marriages alive."

Today I want to make that invitation official by inviting you to participate with this site by answering the following questions.

• What Would You Like To See Discussed? I am only one man, and only one husband. What things would you like to see discussed here that you haven't seen yet? What questions do you have about married life? What questions do you have about love, sex, fights, gifts, etc? Hearing about what you'd like to see will really help me as I try to shape the direction of this blog.
  

• Can I Get Some Help? The issues I choose to talk about come from my own perspective on marriage as I observe it. I would love to have other husbands out there contribute by writing articles that will help all men be better husbands. If you've got tip to share, a story to tell, a marriage book review to give, or anything else that you think would be beneficial to husbands and their marriages, please do!
  

Please leave your post ideas in the comments below, and if you have an article you'd like share with us here, please send me an e-mail using the contact button to the right for more information.

I hope that we can all work together to make this site better and more beneficial to even more husbands. I hope to hear from you soon.