August 31, 2009

Catching Up With Your Wife

Last week my wife and I were pretty busy several days in a row. We work in the same place and see each other all day, but it just felt like it had been weeks since I had had a conversation with her. We were "ships passing through the night," as I once heard it described, and I felt a little lonely.

So one night when we were getting ready to fall into the same routine of just getting ready for bed and drifting off to sleep, I asked her if we could sit and talk. When her face showed sign of concern, I assured her it wasn't about anything, but that I just missed her and wanted to talk to her.

It was good catching up with her. Though we knew exactly what the other had been doing the few previous days, it was good to hear about how she was feeling about those events, and it was good to share with her the things that were on my mind as well. I love being friends with my wife, and sometimes life gets so busy we miss the opportunities to enjoy that friendship.

How long has it been since you have initiated a catching up time with your wife? When was the last time you sat on the couch together with the TV and computers off and just talked? Doing this is a small way to remember why you love her so much, and it's always good to remind yourself of that.


  1. This is what I dream about when I think about a happy marriage. Talking about every little bit of... nothing.

    It reminds me of Jars of Clay's "Scenic Route" on their lates album, The Long Fall Back to Earth. Check it out - and let me know what you think.

  2. Just wanted to give you some positive validation about what you write. It helps in so many ways, so many people. Keep being real and challenging for both men and women!

  3. Nathan, do you know a good place where I could preview that song. You've got me interested now. I checked their website, but it doesn't look too promising.

    Angie, I appreciate those comments more than anything else on this site. Thanks for letting me I should keep going!

  4. My wife and I often have these sit down, turn everything off, conversations. We call if refueling. We try to keep our love tanks full, because life drains us everyday. Sitting down and talking with your wife as friends is a very good thing to do. I just wanted to let you know I read your blog everytime you update. I don't always comment, but I love this blog. Thanks,


  5. I did this with my wife last night. It was an amazing time!

    I went to the store and got some firewood, roses and stuff for dinner and dessert. When she came home from church, I had a blanket out in front of the fireplace and we sat on it in front of the fire and ate dinner and talked for an hour without stopping. I also had candles, music and chocolate covered strawberries. ;)

    We reconnected on a deep level after both of us being very busy lately. She is my best friend and it was great to share a wonderful evening with her!