June 18, 2008

Relationship Advice From Garth Brooks

Sometimes I'll be sitting across the room from my wife and I am overcome with emotion. As I admire her beauty and think about all the wonderful years we have spent together, I can't help but ask myself, "What did she choose me? Why did she choose to put up with me and not some other better looking man with less issues and quirks?" During these moments my heart swells, and I am just so thankful for the love of that woman.

In these moments of wonder, do you tell your wife how you're feeling? I know that many men struggle with being able to express their feelings, which is a real shame because our wives really need to hear what's on our hearts. The other day I heard a remake of Garth Brooks' classic If Tomorrow Never Comes and I was reminded of how important it is to tell my wife how I feel about her, even if it's uncomfortable. The song doesn't need any commentary, so I thought I would just post the lyrics and leave it at that.

Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
Shes lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart?


If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her?

Did I try in every way to show her every day
That shes my only one?

And if my time on earth were through
And she must face the world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes?

Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel


So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

(And if you're at all interested in hearing the song, but aren't into the twang of Garth, do a search for Ronan Keating. He did a great remake a few years ago.)


  1. Great post-- if we kept in mind that each moment could be our last, I believe we'd be different husbands.

  2. I just told my wife last night what an inspiration and life saver she has been to me. My wife prompted me to read this amazing story over at cindybeall.com read "our story" in the sidebar.

    I don't ever want her to forget that when I was unlovable she demonstrated Christ's love to me. I'm so in love with that woman.

  3. Just last night he told me that when I came downstairs after I had showered he thought I looked so beautiful. He told me he felt so lucky to have someone like me. I had on no makeup, I did not style or even dry my hair, I was wearing plain pants and a tee-shirt. The fact that he found me so beautiful at that moment made me feel so good, and I wont be forgetting that he told me so. If he had not told me how he felt, I would have continued to think that I looked like the same ol' me because I had not done anything special to my appearance. Instead, today, I feel beautiful, because of what he told me last night.