May 30, 2008

Marriage And Family Advice From Will Smith

"Divorce just can't be an option. It's really that simple – if you just remove the option. Because if you have the option, one day that person's going to make you want a divorce. You absolutely get to the point that you're done, and the only thing that keeps you continuing is that there's no other option."

Will Smith during his recent appearance on Ellen

It really isn't very often you hear so much wisdom come from a man in Hollywood. I continue to be impressed with Will Smith's career, but lately I have been much more fascinated by his personal life. In addition to his appearance on Ellen, I read an interview from Reader's Digest shortly before his film The Pursuit of Happyness was released:

RD: You and Jada have been married nine years and, by all accounts, are very happy. What's the key?
Smith: Communication. And divorce cannot be an option.

RD: Your first marriage ended in divorce.
Smith: That is probably the most painful loss of my life. I quit. I could have fixed it. It really was not that bad.

RD: Some would say there's no reason to stay if a marriage isn't good.
Smith: Once you say that, you've lost. With Jada, I stood up in front of God and my family and friends and said, "Till death do us part." So there are two possible outcomes: We are going to be together till death, or I am dead.

To read more of the Reader's Digest interview, click here. If you're up to watching some of the Ellen interview, definitely watch the video below. It's a two-parter, and I've posted the second part because he's got some very grounded insights on many different areas of life. There is a moment around the 4:35 mark that has a lot to do with the subject of this previous post.


  1. I completely agree. Nice to see a celebrity saying that. Lets hope other take his cue.

  2. I love this. I hadn't thought of Will Smith as being an actor with a stable relationship before - just as an awesome actor. I think Hugh Jackman is known for this too. Awesome, Awesome advice. I know I've thought of divorce in worst times. It definitely seems best to shut out the worst outcomes as options. Thanks for this blog.

    Eric Arias
    Fyckle Smarts

  3. I think he's a self righteous nutbag, and his scientology BS oozes from him and it disgusts me.

    Seems like a nice guy but I cannot buy his propaganda when I know he believes in a cult.

  4. I think that Mr. Smith has great philosophies and is a honest to heart individual i would love to meet. Honoring his marriage vows in front of God, his family and friends is something he takes seriously as well as others. If people like him existed in this world, progression and leadership would be the outcome, not for men or women but for everyone!

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  7. There are many things I admire about Will Smith, but I don't know if I'd hold him up as an example of good Christian marriage, based on this article.
    While I commend his commitment to honesty, I think the "forsaking all others" part of marriage is pretty crucial as well.

  8. It is very good advice. For this video. As a way of life any more ever.