April 20, 2008

"Then What Did I Just Say?"

"What's for dinner?" is the only question many husbands ask their wives, and the only one to which they care about the answer. ~Mignon McLaughlin

Husbands forget to ask their wives about what's going on in their lives. We get stuck in the routine of asking the same questions over and over, and often our questions really come across as heartless. For example, saying something like, "How was your day at work?" while we are watching TV or doing nothing on the internet. We fall into the habit of asking these questions because we're supposed to, and not because we really care to hear the answer.

When you hear your wife say, "Oh yeah? Then what did I just say?" that means you have not been listening and that you should turn off the TV, face her, and continue the conversation. The question "Then what did I say?" shouldn't be taken as a test of whether or not our subconcious can regurgitate information we weren't paying attention to, but it should be an indicator that our wives feel like we're not listening to what they want to tell us.

And why in the world would we want to make them feel like that?

Photography courtesy of byNini.

1 comment:

  1. Excellent point. And I would underscore the part about "not because we really care to hear the answer."
    It should be an exercise for husbands to daily work the "muscle" that is genuine concern for what their wives are saying, feeling, thinking, needing.