I ran across an interesting article at TheMarriageBed.com about the importance of husband and wife enjoying touch and nudity outside of the sexual relationship. The author talks about enjoying each other's skin without it always leading to sex; something women need and the relationship as a whole can benefit from.
Some highlights:
"Sleeping in the nude seems to violate some unwritten rule in America. It may be good for the folks who make pajamas, but why do we "dress" for bed?" Also, "Part of sleeping together is falling asleep together and waking up together. It's not just about being in the same place; bedtime small talk and half asleep hugs can create a deep sense of closeness."
"When's the last time that showering together wasn't foreplay?! Ever shared a long hug in the shower?"
"Lazy naked snuggling is so easy when you sleep together IF you don't go to bed exhausted and IF you wake up more than 30 seconds before you HAVE TO jump out of bed. Just wrap yourselves around each other and enjoy the contact; no movement or talking is required."
"One reason many women avoid this is they fear that it will 'always lead to sex,' while men often avoid it out of fear that "it won't lead to sex. The problem here is..."
"When's the last time that showering together wasn't foreplay?! Ever shared a long hug in the shower?"
"Lazy naked snuggling is so easy when you sleep together IF you don't go to bed exhausted and IF you wake up more than 30 seconds before you HAVE TO jump out of bed. Just wrap yourselves around each other and enjoy the contact; no movement or talking is required."
"One reason many women avoid this is they fear that it will 'always lead to sex,' while men often avoid it out of fear that "it won't lead to sex. The problem here is..."
I think this article's got a lot of good things to say, and our relationships definitely won't suffer from trying to be more intentional about this. You can check out the full article here. (And don't forget to come back and let me know what you thought.)
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