April 30, 2008

A Stay-At-Home Mom's Wish List

A Good Husband has a great guest post from a wife in his series "What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew." Here's a summary of what she said, but definitely go check out the whole article.

So, Dear Husband:

Be observant:
Since its not fair to wish for a mind reader, this is the next best thing, right? Just notice stuff. Like the nice dinner I prepared, or the extra effort I made to run that errand for you, or the kids stinky diaper, or the hug I could really use right about now. Then take those keen observations and act on them.

Be appreciative: Thank me. Sincerely. For anything and everything. Like that dinner or the errand. Knowing I'm appreciated will make it easier for me to appreciate you and all your thoughtful diaper changes and hugs.

Be open: Since I'm not requiring you to be a mind reader, please don't expect it from me. I can't guess what you're thinking, so you're just gonna have to tell me. Things always go smoother when we communicate openly. And just think how much better it'd be if I didn't have to coerce you into it.

Be attentive: I spend all day with a toddler who listens only when the topic concerns doggies, milk, or Elmo. So when you're around, I crave your listening ear. And, so long as you don't mention Elmo, I'll gladly give you mine.
These are great reminders. Make sure you don't leave it here. Go out and practice it!


  1. This post reminds me of mine and the hubs frequent conversations of how he tells me I bombard him with verbal diarrhea when he walks through the door. I have to remind him that I haven't spoken with a grown up in HOURS. LOL!

  2. -V-

    That's like the old example I've always heard that men speak half of the amount of words women do in a day. So by the time the woman gets home, she's ready to have a real conversation and the man is ready to sit and do nothing.

    I think furthering this topic from the husband's point of view will be worth pursuing in a future post. Thanks for the inspiration!

  3. I've been caught by this before. My wife had died her hair earlier in the week to be slightly auburn. I was out of town on a business trip and by the time I got back, the dye had faded to the point where it wasn't noticeable. She was quite upset with me for not noticing while I was protesting that there was nothing to notice. :) She finally realized that the color had faded quite a bit, but it was a rough day or two.