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June 13, 2009
On Vacation
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May 27, 2009
Tell Her What You're Thinking
Sometimes I am just amazed that my wife picked me. Do you know what I mean? Sometimes I watch her do the cute things she does and I can't feel more in love with her. I know I married way out of my league and I couldn't be more thankful that she actually wants to be with me.
There are times when I'm watching her from across the room and think, Man, she is so beautiful. She was a bridesmaid in a wedding recently and I thought, Wow, she's really giving the bride a run for her money! In so many moments I remember who I am and who she is and I feel like the luckiest man in the world.
And today I want to share a little trick I've learned to make your wife feel like the woman you know she is:
Tell her what you're thinking.
Seriously, the next time you catch yourself thanking your lucky stars for the woman sitting next to you, tell her that the next chance you get. Or if you're admiring her across the room at some event, take the first moment you can to tell her how beautiful she is and how much you enjoyed watching her from across the room.
Our wives want to hear that we're still infatuated with them. We have these thoughts, so why not share them? Put your feelings into words and tell her. She'll love you more for it.
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Learn To Love The Same Things
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May 4, 2009
I Need Your Help
- What Would You Like To See Discussed? I am only one man, and only one husband. What things would you like to see discussed here that you haven't seen yet? What questions do you have about married life? What questions do you have about love, sex, fights, gifts, etc? Hearing about what you'd like to see will really help me as I try to shape the direction of this blog.
- Can I Get Some Help? The issues I choose to talk about come from my own perspective on marriage as I observe it. I would love to have other husbands out there contribute by writing articles that will help all men be better husbands. If you've got tip to share, a story to tell, a marriage book review to give, or anything else that you think would be beneficial to husbands and their marriages, please do!
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April 28, 2009
What To Do When She's 'Always Right'
- Let Her Cool Down Before Expressing Your Feelings — Saying something to your wife like, "Well you're always right and I'm always wrong!" is just gasoline on a flame in the heat of the moment. In all actuality, she's upset about the situation, not at you. Wait until later to let her know to express to her things like, "I felt really hurt by the way you acted earlier." Removing yourselves from the situation will allow you to talk about what you want to talk about.
- But If You Do Need To Mention Something...— Recently my wife was very irritated with something that was going on (I think we were traveling) and she kept snapping at me out of frustration. This, in turn, was of course making me get very frustrated, so eventually I just asked, "Babe, are you upset with me?" She immediately said, "No, I'm just overwhelmed with..." I told her that the way she was acting was making me feel like she was angry with me. She apologized and things cooled down after that because she realized what was happening. Sometimes our anger toward other things catches our spouses in the crossfire.
- When She's Always Right — Our reader comment was a very specific situation of anger, but many people commented in the post Are You Good At Being Wrong about how their wives never admit that they are wrong, no matter how trivial the issue. If this is something that gets you down, you need to talk about it with her. But again, do it when you are away from the situation to limit her being overly defensive. Tell her, "It makes me feel really incompetent when you won't admit you're wrong over the little things." Or, "I feel beaten when I can't even be right over the little things I know I'm right about.
- Check Yourself — It is a lot easier for her to sympathize with your feelings if she knows you are trying in this area too. If you act just as stubborn, then telling her she needs to fix her problems is part of the reason you have problems. Check yourself; how well have you been able to admit your faults?
- If She Disregards Your Feelings Completely — If you have lovingly and clearly stated how you feel and things still don't seem to change, it's time to get help. Getting help can be as simple as going to another couple you know that has dealt with the same issue but gained victory over it, or as "extreme" as going to a counselor. This is your life and your marriage. If things aren't the way they should be, do not be okay with that. Little problems become big problems, and little issues become big feelings of resentment if they are not dealt with.
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April 23, 2009
iAMHUSBAND 24 Hour Challenge
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